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Punishment Doesn’t Work — Here’s What To Do Instead (Part 2 of 2)

September 29, 2022

When I first suggest to parents that they stop using traditional punishments (time-outs, taking things away, bribes, yelling, shaming, etc.) to manage and guide behavior, they often look at me like I’m nuts. Many of us can’t imagine parenting without the fear-dynamic that punishment provides: we get scary or mean, our kids do what we…


Punishment Doesn’t Work — Here’s Why (Part 1 of 2)

September 22, 2022

Newsflash: my children do not always do what I want them to do. They have been known to ignore me, give me an emphatic “no,” or simply “forget” to follow through on assigned tasks. This never happens to you, right? 😉 Well, on the off chance that it has, on the off chance that you…


“What’s Your Plan for That?”: How to Empower Your Kids

November 15, 2021

Does language matter? Does the way you talk to your children make a difference? If you’re like most parents, you suspect that it does, but you’re not sure exactly how.  You know that there are times your children are more cooperative than others, but you can’t really put your finger on why. It turns out…


5 Reasons Rewards Don’t Work

March 22, 2021

Dear Heartful, What are your thoughts about using rewards to motivate kids? I would love your wisdom on trying to get kids to stay at the table, brush their teeth, or do other simple tasks. Thanks, N.K. Rewards don’t work. Great question, N.K. Here are five reasons why rewarding your child doesn’t work, and what…


Leading by the Power of Our Example

January 26, 2021

When President Biden gave his victory speech on November 7, 2020 and again when he addressed the nation at his Inauguration last week, he said “We will lead not merely by the example of our power, but by the power of our example.” The power of our example. Wow. It’s a powerful statement for the…


You Better Watch Out, You Better Not Cry: Positive Discipline and the Elf on the Shelf

December 1, 2020

The Christmas season is upon us (gasp!) and [for those who celebrate], with it comes a whole host of family traditions. And despite the fact that its 2020, this year, like every year, we used the day after Thanksgiving to crank up the Christmas tunes while my girls decorated the gingerbread houses that my mom…


Do You Know the Antidote for Bullying?

October 27, 2020

When I was in the 4th grade, I was terribly, horribly bullied. A few girls that had been my close friends for years, suddenly and unexpectedly threw me out and excluded me from the group; I was subjected to taunts, put-downs, and ridicule. Recess every day was pure and utter hell. I had no idea…


“I’ll Talk To You After I Help You Calm Down”

October 20, 2020

Last week, I shared a story about the day I found myself yelling at my sobbing, tantruming child and told her to “use her words.” Not my finest parenting moment, I’ll admit, but we all screw up sometimes.  Some of us (me) on a pretty regular basis. Since that time I’ve learned a thing or…


Dear Heartful, My 5-Year-Old is Talking Back and Mocking Me. What Do I Do?

June 9, 2020

Dear Heartful, My challenge right now is having my 5-year old son listen and take direction. He is consistently talking back and mocking me. I’m not sure what I can do because I can waste my whole day telling him what to do, and he won’t do it! I have exhausted myself. Thanks, K.M. Dear…


What Is Positive Discipline Anyway?

November 24, 2019

In 2018, the American Academy of Pediatrics revised its policy statement on discipline for the first time since 1989, taking a firm stand against the use of any corporal punishment or harsh verbal discipline. So what do we use instead? Positive Discipline, the parenting approach developed by Dr. Jane Nelsen, provides some answers, and can…


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Christy Keating is a certified parent coach,  positive discipline educator, and motivational speaker. She is the founder and CEO of The Heartful Parent Collective, which includes Heartful Parent Coaching, Savvy Parents Safe Kids, and Heartful Parent Academy.

The mother of two amazing daughters, Christy strives to build a happier, healthier world - one child, one parent, and one family at a time.